Pre-marriage Course in Italy: What Nobody Tells You (and What You should Know)

If you’re organizing a religious wedding in Italy, at some point you’ll hear this phrase: “Have you already chosen the pre-marriage course?” And there, between the anxiety about the guest list and the search for the perfect venue, you’ll realize there’s one more thing to put on your agenda. But don’t worry: no panic, because today I’ll tell you everything you need to know about pre-marriage courses with no guaranteed yawns.

So, What is a Pre-Marriage Course Really?

The pre-marriage course is a program designed for couples who want to marry in a Catholic religious ceremony. It’s not just a bureaucratic formality (although it is necessary to obtain the documents for marriage), but a real opportunity to discuss important topics: love, life together, faith, family.

It’s not a school, there are no exams. Rather, it’s like a series of guided conversations, often very pleasant, where you can stop and think about what it really means to build a life together.

How Long Does it Last and how Does it Work?

The duration varies from parish to parish, but generally we’re talking about 6-10 weekly meetings of about a couple of hours each. Some dioceses also offer intensive courses concentrated in a single weekend (perfect if you’re always in a rush).

Each meeting covers a different topic:

• The importance of couple communication

• How to deal with conflicts (because they will happen, trust me)

• The value of the sacrament of marriage

• Sexuality and mutual respect

• Raising children

• Practical and legal aspects of married life

Often priests participate, but also psychologists, lawyers, or married couples who share their real experiences. And sometimes there’s even laughter: it’s not a funeral, it’s the beginning of a new journey!

Is it Really Necessary? (Spoiler: Yes)

Ok, maybe at first you think: “Why do I need to talk about arguments and children when I still haven’t finished choosing the menu?”

The truth is that taking time to reflect on your relationship, your dreams, and even the difficulties is one of the most beautiful gifts you can give yourselves. Between an appointment with the florist and a dress fitting, a little space to talk about “us” is good for the heart.

Where is it Held?

Normally in the parish of one of the two spouses. But some dioceses also offer more flexible alternatives: online courses, residential weekends, small group meetings.

One important thing: don’t wait until the last minute. Some parishes organize few courses per year and they fill up quickly. Ideally, start looking at least 6-9 months before your wedding date.

And What Does Al Burnec Have to Do with it?

If you’re planning an intimate and authentic wedding, Al Burnec is the perfect venue for hosting small couple retreats or special pre-wedding meetings. Imagine: a day dedicated to you, immersed in nature, among vineyards and intimate atmospheres. A different, emotional, and authentic way to prepare for the big day, away from the hustle and bustle.

And why not? After the official course, you could organize a symbolic celebration day at Al Burnec with your closest loved ones. A brunch, an elegant picnic, your own love ceremony. The possibilities are endless, like the journey you’re about to embark on together.

Conclusion: less Anxiety, more Heart

The pre-marriage course is not a bureaucratic nuisance. It’s a rare opportunity to look into each other’s eyes and say: “We are ready, together, truly.”

With a bit of open-mindedness (and maybe an aperitif after each meeting), it will be one of the most beautiful pieces of your love story.

And when the big day arrives, under the sky of Al Burnec or wherever your heart takes you, you’ll realize that every word, every smile, and every shared discussion will have made everything even more special.